Who are you? Are you the same person with your spouse as with your co-worker? Are you that same person to the grocery store cashier – to the mail carrier as you are to your kids? Most of us aren’t (maybe none of us are). We are like chemicals in the scientist’s lab – any one chemical, combined with any number of different ones, reacts differently – appears differently – takes on different characteristics. So, who are you, really? Do you know?
The real you is that person whom you choose to be. And it’s quite OK to be different people with different people, so long as YOU decide who that will be. If you would like to be more gregarious with friends and associates, you can be. If you’d like to be less overbearing in the work place or in personal relationships, you can be. If you’d like to be less of a worrier about daily life, that’s possible too. You have the opportunity, at any and every waking moment, to be the person you want to be. The problem with most of us is that we allow our spouse or the store clerk or the mail carrier determine for us who we are. We react to who THEY are and thus give them control over us (even if they aren’t aware of it). Our chemistry, mixed with theirs, determines “me.” But, if we are aware of this dynamic, we can overcome it. We can choose to be outgoing or happy or thoughtful or perky. We can portray and BE the person we want to be.
So today, decide what you want to be like. Determine how you can best “mix” with people you will encounter today. Decide who you are and go out there and BE it.